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Insulating Self with Stuff
Insulating self with stuff Have you ever felt that some of your objects are really preventing you from being whom you are? You may ask what does she really mean by that question? Let me see if I can make myself clear. I have an office containing three bookshelves. I do love books and have bought many for research purposes, but do I need to keep three bookcases? I doubt it. So why do I do it? Having three bookcases prevents me from having the room to put a bed in my office and turn it into a guest room. In a way this insulates me from having overnight guests. My crowded space prevents me from opening my heart and home to friends I'd like to see who live out of town. When I look at my dinning room table I see the morning paper and mail that needs to be answered. So inviting people to dinner means cleaning up my act. Once more I am insulated from the very interactions I say I really want. So I look at all these collections and wonder why am I keeping these instead of cleaning up my act and giving things away. Why am I using clutter to prevent me from being the outgoing people loving person I think I am? Perhaps the answer lies in advancing age and the fatigue that comes with years. Perhaps it is just that it is easier to be alone than to make a fuss for company. Some people surround themselves with pictures a record of a time to be remembered. Pictures of our loved ones do not talk back. Pictures remain as our loved one once were instead of who they have become. Pictures can also serve as reminders of our influence in the world. These are my children. My Mom has a wall dedicated to our graduation pictures. All four girls at ages 17 or 18, who wouldn't want to remember their daughters at that age? The grandchildren now successful lawyers and engineers are forever young on Grandma's wall. So instead of visiting or hosting visits from the real people the wall remembers times past. This is a form of insulation from today's reality. Look around your home and see if the objects you keep are serving you today or are they insulating you. Write and tell me your story. Cc fld 10/2/08
posted on: 10/8/2008 8:00:00 AM by Frances D'Amato
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Frances L. D'Amato, M.A. M.Ed. is an Organizational Psychologist as well as a working artist. She founded the Tree Group in 1981 and has been helping Organizations reduce clutter and streamline systems for more efficient management. About ten years ago she expanded her focus to include individuals who work at home and then individuals who need help decluttering their homes. Frances works with the individual to discover the meaning of clutter and develops a process to allow people to let go and live in a more clutter and stress free environment.
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