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Letting Go Lessons From Trees
Fall has arrived here in southern Maine and it is just beautiful! I was out walking on the estuary reserve this weekend and color was everywhere. Nature makes change look absolutely effortless. There are no signs of struggle or resistance. I wasn't hearing the leaves say, "No, I can't turn red, now, I'm not ready!" I watched as they fell effortlessly to the ground, too. We could certainly take some lessons from nature around letting go.
The difference between us and nature is attachment. The leaves aren't attached to staying on the tree, but humans tend to create their struggles by attaching themselves to ideas, stuff, traditions or relationships. You have been conditioned to form attachments and the very first attachment you have outside the womb is to your mother. Initially your attachments are necessary for your survival. You learn with time that your attachments can soothe you and make you feel safe, loved, protected and valued. A good deal of how you view yourself and the world can be associated with your attachments.
Attachments are not good or bad, they just are. However, when you become attached it is always to something outside of you. What happens then, when the object of your attachment ends, disappears, falls apart, or goes away in some form? Or worse, you have to make the choice to let it go?
Your emotions play a huge role in your attachments. When you begin to feel that tug around letting go what's happening is your intellect is partnering with your emotions convincing you that you'll experience huge amounts of pain that you can't manage if you let go. Your intuition—inner wisdom-- says that you'll be fine and can cope well with letting go. This sets up the confusion or indecisiveness that you feel.
The other piece of the human process is resistance. Resistance always precipitates change even if it's for a fraction of time—the "I don't know if I'm ready!"—that happens so often before you step into letting go and moving on. It's normal. Resistance is not a permanent condition, you will eventually move beyond it.
My challenge to you this week is to observe the trees. Then find something that you have been thinking about letting go, something that when you think about letting it go causes you some discomfort. Tune in to what your intellect and emotions are saying to you, then tune in to your inner wisdom, the part of you that is prompting you to let go. Let whatever shows up be okay. Then give it some space and time. Ask yourself which voice makes the most sense. Then when you really feel it, let go.
Love To You,
posted on: 10/1/2009 12:00:00 PM by Maggie McCauley
category: The Mental Side
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Maggie McCauley, ACC, LICSW, The Effortless Organizing Coach, is the president of "A New View". She takes a holistic approach to organizing coaching her clients to create new habits that promote overall well-being, a sense of freedom and peace of mind.
My Favorite Books
- The Success Principles by Jack Canfield
- It's Hard To Make A Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys by Marilyn Paul
- Organize With Confidence by Elizabeth Hagen
- The Secret Of Letting Go by Guy Finley
- Life Is Short--Wear Your Party Pants by Loretta La Roche
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
- The Seven Whispers by Christina Baldwin
- Loving What Is by Byron Katie
- Making A Change For Good by Cheri Huber
- "Happiness Now!" by Robert Holden, PhD.