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Letting Go Of The Holiday "Shoulds"
Everywhere I go people are saying "Happy Holiday!" Spreading good cheer to all you meet feels so good, but are you feeling truly happy inside? You probably are when you say it, but does it stay with you throughout the day? "Happy Holidays" become just words unless you are truly feeling happy inside about yourself and your life and, of course, the holidays.
Something that can block your happiness at the holidays is stepping into the world of "shoulds". Have you been "shoulding" on yourself this holiday? Do you find yourself saying things like, "I should be able to get everything on their list.", "I should be able to get all the baking done by the weekend.", "I should be doing this much better." or "I should be happier."?
If this sounds like you, it's time to let go of the "shoulds". Many years ago as I began my personal growth path I learned about the infamous "shoulds" and I made a commitment to eliminate the word from my vocabulary. In letting go of the "shoulds" I let go of shaming myself. I let go of the need to be perfect or doing something the "right way". It was a huge weight off of me.
Are you ready to give yourself the gift of letting go of the "shoulds" this holiday? If you are, when you hear yourself say "should" notice it without judgment. Know that you've been saying it for a long time and you won't be able to stop it immediately. Notice where and when it comes up, notice who it comes up around and if the situations are similar. Observe your behavior with curiosity, "Hmmmm…this is interesting."
Being organized is about releasing the chaos from your life and opening up the space for more order. Order brings with it calm and peacefulness and confidence. Order changes your world and therefore changes your interactions with all of the people in your life. In letting go of the "shoulds" you let go of internal chaos and restore the natural order.
A pre-holiday gift for you—Notice the shoulds, acknowledge and let go—the best formula for a happy holiday.
Love To You,
posted on: 12/10/2009 12:00:00 PM by Maggie McCauley
category: The Mental Side
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Maggie McCauley, ACC, LICSW, The Effortless Organizing Coach, is the president of "A New View". She takes a holistic approach to organizing coaching her clients to create new habits that promote overall well-being, a sense of freedom and peace of mind.
My Favorite Books
- The Success Principles by Jack Canfield
- It's Hard To Make A Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys by Marilyn Paul
- Organize With Confidence by Elizabeth Hagen
- The Secret Of Letting Go by Guy Finley
- Life Is Short--Wear Your Party Pants by Loretta La Roche
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
- The Seven Whispers by Christina Baldwin
- Loving What Is by Byron Katie
- Making A Change For Good by Cheri Huber
- "Happiness Now!" by Robert Holden, PhD.