Blog: Busy Moms Can Be Organized Too
KNOWING YOUR STRENGTHS WHEN VOLUNTEERING
Okay, Mom. Your childfs school has asked you to volunteer as classroom mom, be on the sportfs departmentfs fund raising committee, bake cookies for the annual school fair...need I say more.
You already have a full schedule between working, running the household, transporting the kids from here to there, volunteering in the community and perhaps at your place of worship...
You want to be the "good mom" and do it all. In reality you canft and thatfs okay. There are several reasons why.
There are only so many hours in a day.
First, before you say "yes", you need to take a look at your schedule and determine the amount of time you still have left after doing everything else. Then, determine how much of your time you will need in order to contribute to the volunteering project.
Do you have time for such a large project? Perhaps you want to select something that wonft be so time consuming. Instead of running the entire committee, volunteer for a smaller piece.
You havenft learned the art of saying "no".
Because you donft want to hurt anyonefs feelings, you feel you need to say "yes" to everything. You agree to run errands for a family member or friend, you volunteer for your childfs athletic club, you volunteer at your childfs school, you volunteer at your place of worship.
You canft be everything to everybody. Everyone has their limits; even you. Believe it or not, you will gain more respect from people when you learn to say "no" once in a while.
There is nothing wrong with letting someone know you would love to help out but you are just not able to do so at this time. Amazingly, you will find that it is not just assumed that you will do whatever is requested. They will understand and accept your decision.
You panic. You donft have the slightest idea!
The downside of not planning your volunteering is that you automatically say "yes" to everything and then panic. Are you a bit disorganized when it comes to keeping records? Then, donft volunteer to keep track of sales for a school fund raiser. You realize after you say "yes" that you donft have the slightest idea how to organize a large fund raiser and coordinate everyone else on the committee. Perhaps you acknowledge that youfre really not Betty Crocker and not very good at baking but you said "yes" to baking for that bake sale. Perhaps itfs just not the right activity for you.
Take some time to determine your strengths and weaknesses. Only volunteer for things you can really contribute to without causing yourself any additional stress. You are not giving your best if what you volunteer for is more than you can handle or is not your strong suit. Perhaps someone else is better suited for the job and you can do something else instead.
Finally, do yourself a favor...
Volunteer for one thing at a time.
Donft over-extend yourself. When that particular project is finished, and you still have some energy left, go ahead and volunteer for something else if you want to. Or, take a break for a while and re-energize. Be kind to yourself...youfre doing plenty already.
posted on: 4/2/2010 8:30:00 AM by Audrey Cupo
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