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I watch Housewives of New Jersey (and all the others) religiously! One week I noticed every time they would visit Caroline Manzo's pad she would have some delicious snack prepared, while wiping off counters and pouring her guests a festive beverage. Always on the ready. Now I know most of those women have housekeepers but some I think are naturally that talented. How is it they run charities, businesses, lunch with girlfriends, a game of tennis and photo shoots all while managing a household and the family that goes in it. Is it realistic or even healthy for us to be that on the go and motivated. But then we also see the fabulous vacations they take too! AND spa trips!!
I have tried to study this multitasking housewife for years, trying to perfect my own abilities to juggle several plates in the air. I get all worked up and tell folks sometimes my ADD and OCD (self diagnosis) tend to intersect and I short out. Leaving me unable to focus on one thing and powerless to leave something else unfinished. I have in the past tried to set up my own systems to put in place a catch net for what I leave behind. Then my creative side starts chirping…paint 3 rooms this weekend!! Move 4 large pieces of furniture around the house on a Saturday morning! You all know I have a patient husband but it is even taxing on him at times.
Recently, while I was recovering from surgery I couldn't do much but I could change all my lamps and accessories around and that brought me such joy! I just can't sit still! I love a clean, tidy, organized house…sometimes it's the life outside these doors that gets in the way. Commitments pile up and responsibility comes knocking. There are days when I just want to play house all day. Our focus is so distracted at times. It is then that I want to take the signs off the truck, close Lula up and take a hiatus to be just mom. Bake cookies and scrub my floors the old fashioned way. But then I get bored and restless, the dogs won't stop barking and the kids won't stop yelling and I come to my senses that I must have something else to channel my energy into. So is this balance even possible? Can we be a domestic diva, rockin mom and entrepreneur all at once? How come some have it and some don't?
I think it starts with focus! When we lose our focus we tend to get all bogged down with negative thinking: "I can't do all this"; "I should wait until my children are older"; "Why make it hard on myself"; "It's just too much".
In 2007 when I began having panic attacks, my Doctor would tell me just to say the word FORWARD when I started thinking like that. I still have anxiety but am learning how to work it out.
I lose my focus and sometimes want to quit all that I have obligated myself to do and just be mom and wife. Those are my most important jobs. But then I remember who I truly work for…to glorify my God who has given me these talents in the first place. That usually puts be back in check quickly.
While I may not have fresh cookies and a perfect home like the "Real Housewives" I am trying to do all that I love at once. I can't listen to the negative thoughts telling me I can't. I regroup, whisper "Forward" a few times and can get back together pretty quick now. Focus is truly important but second to that is taking time for yourself to recharge your own batteries. We ALL need downtime, we just sometimes deny ourselves the time to relax. Some of us don't really know how!!!
So, if you feel a little overwhelmed and discombobulated like I do during the unstructured summer, take the next few weeks to enjoy yourself. Take a breather, recharge your batteries and get your focus back!RELAX!
For us Type A's, time management, list making and sub-categorizing our lives back in order can wait a few weeks!!
Happy 4th of July!!
After the long holiday weekend Lulagrace will be taking the next 3 weeks to focus solely on "back to school". We encourage you to share your greatest tips and suggestions for getting organized for Fall on our Facebook page. Or submit them to [email protected] .
posted on: 7/1/2010 2:00:00 PM by Melissa Searcy
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Melissa Searcy is a professional organizer and independent decorator now living in Jasper, AL. Formerly of Montgomery, Melissa owns Lulagrace Interiors where she was a regularly featured guest on morning television and had articles featured in the local newspaper and many local monthly publications. For more information you may visit her at www.lulagrace.com. Melissa is also a member of the Facebook community at Facebook.com/melissa.searcy or on Twitter at Twitter.com/LulagracePO.
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