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Blog: Can We Have Some Order Here?
Stop Head-Butting And Start Organizing -- Together



I am noticing a trend in organizing these days. So many of the challenges I see families face are not actually caused by disorganization, but by a conflict in organizing styles. One person waits to do all the filing once a month while the other prefers to file daily, it as each item comes in. Or mom's one to cram a lot of activities into her day, while dad would prefer more time off. Each calls the other "wrong" and there's a lot of unnecessary head-butting.


Learning To Work Together


When Matt and I first got married,  I was highly anal-retentive about my living environment (big surprise!) I wanted no visible clutter anywhere. My hubby on the other hand, while far from a slob, had a much more relaxed attitude about putting certain things away -- like the clothes he would change out of at the end of the day. He left a trail of wardrobe items around our house that used to drive me up the wall. I tried everything to get him to hang up his clothes as soon as he took them off (pleading, cajoling, threatening, bribery), but nothing worked -- because that simply wasn't important to him.

Now if I had kept pushing and he had kept resisting, this could have very well ended our marriage (I've seen breakups happen over less!) But we decided that it was silly for us to get so worked up over something so relatively insignificant. However, we also realized that it would be unbalanced for one of us to simply "give in" (God knows that when a spouse surrenders a single battle, it feels as if you've lost the war!) We talked about what we each valued. I wanted a tidy-looking home without piles of clothes everywhere -- but at the same time, I didn't want to be constantly picking up after him in order to achieve that. He on the other hand, wanted to come home from work and immediately relax, without having to worry about spending his precious down-time putting things away (this was back in the day before self-employment!) -- but he promised he would get it all where it belonged once or twice a week.

Fortunately, we each had a divided closet -- so we agreed that when Matt shed his skin at the end of the day, he would pile his clothes in the floor of his side (rather than the floor of the bedroom or living room or bathroom) and shut the door. That way, I didn't have to see it or deal with it. And when the pile got to big for him to stand, he'd hang everything up (or do laundry) and start over again fresh. It was the perfect solution, because both our needs were met at the same time. And that arrangement has followed us into the Airstream and around the country -- of course, it's a smaller closet, but we still each have our own section, and Matt's got a series of "cubbies" where he can easily stow his clothes as he takes them off. A good system (one built on give-and-take) is adaptable enough to last you forever!

I always say that compromise is the soul of family harmony -- and it's doubly true when you're talking about getting organized. The best way to fail at your organizing efforts is for one family member to lay down hard-and-fast rules, expecting everyone else to just fall in line -- ain't gonna happen! Instead of each person insisting that it be done "their" way, recognize that there is no one "right" way to organize. Talk it over, discuss each person's needs and expectations, and find someplace in the middle where you can all be happy. It works with kids, it works with life partners, it even works with mothers-in-law!


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posted on: 7/14/2011 11:30:00 AM by Ramona Creel
category: General Organizing Tips


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