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MEET THE MESSIES
Having a messy house is painful. Why can't we just relax, be messy and enjoy it?
There are probably two reasons according to colleague and fellow organizer, Sandra Felton, author of The Messies Superguide:
- A messy house gives us a feeling of losing control; and we tend to lose self-esteem whenever our house is not pretty.
- Having a messy house that feels out of control brings us both frustration and humiliation.
So how do we fix it? Felton tells u what not to do, and I agree:
Don't go shopping. One of the simplest ways to avoid the pain of a messy house is to leave it and go elsewhere. Shopping is great because we find ourselves amongst pretty things. Or we may go visit a friend, or volunteer to help someone else. It may make us feel good-for a while, but unfortunately the problem won't go away-unless you hire a maid.
Don't watch soaps. I know kids are messy, but what kind of habits are they learning from you? It's too easy to turn the blame on our family rather than take responsibility for our own feelings.
Don't learn to live with it. It's dangerous to say, "Oh well, it really isn't so bad. This is just who I am. I can live with it." Remember, the pain of a messy house is real, and it will keep coming back until you decide to do something about the mess. But what can you do? Start by telling yourself you do care and take positive steps to fix the problem, one step at a time.
Remember, Felton says, the best way to escape the pain of a problem is to solve it.
posted on: 9/20/2011 12:00:00 PM by Judy Warmington
category: The Mental Side
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Judy Warmington, Woman Time Management (owner) -- Busy wife, mother of three adult/married children, grandmother of 10 (5 boys and 5 girls!), former high school teacher (M.A. from W.M.U.), Speaker, Author, Radio Personality, and Trainer of Professional Organizers.