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Selfishness? Or Self-Preservation?

Tell me if this sounds familiar -- someone asks you to do something that you really don't want to do or you honestly don't have time for. It might be a church bake sale, a school fundraiser, participating on a committee, or even just working late. You want very badly to decline, but you worry that you'll let the other person down if you say no.

Breaking The Chains

You feel guilty already, and you haven't even responded yet! So you say, "Sure," even though doing so is going to put you under tremendous stress and pressure. You know that you will probably end up resenting this activity, maybe even ducking some of your responsibilities because your heart's just not in it. You may end up disappointing the other person, but you go ahead and agree anyway. Why are we so afraid to tell people "no"? Where did Americans adopt this entirely false and self-defeating idea that "no" is disrespectful -- and even insulting? We seem to value other people's time more than our own -- feeling that we need to bend over backward to accommodate others, even if it inconveniences us.

I know we're atoning for the "me" 1980's, but let's be reasonable! "No" is actually one of the healthiest words that can come out of your mouth. When you tell someone "no," you are really saying that you understand and accept your own limits, and don't want to do a shoddy job by overwhelming yourself. That you value your time and priorities and aren't willing to take away from the truly important things in your life. A little selfishness is necessary, if you want to maintain a balanced and sane existence on this planet!

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posted on: 2/14/2012 11:30:00 AM by Ramona Creel
category: General Organizing Tips

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I have been a Professional Organizer for more than 10 years, I am a NAPO Golden Circle member, and I was the original founder of OnlineOrganizing. I have worked one-on-one with scores of clients and have trained dozens of newbie organizers as they got started in the industry. I provide both hands-on and virtual coaching to help clients improve their organizing skills and simplify their lives. I invite you to visit my website at http://www.RamonaCreel.com, and I challenge you to find one new idea that you can put into practice in your life, to help you become better organized, starting TODAY! I am passionate about coaching folks toward a more balanced, productive, and enjoyable life -- and I firmly believe that if I can do it, so can you!

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