Most of us put up with a lot of annoyances in life -- things that drain our energy, make us angry, or frustrate us. We act as if we are trapped by these situations -- but the real irony is that, in many instances, we actually have the power to choose whether or not we continue to tolerate that situation.

Aren't You Tired Of Being Stuck?

We have more control than we imagine. Life isn't just some cosmic pinball game (although God sure plays a mean pinball), where we get bounced around with no say over where we go. Or rather, if it is a game, we're the ones at the head of the table. To continue with a really dorky metaphor, we put in the quarters, we're in charge of the flipper buttons -- and if we get tired of playing the same old game with someone, we can just let the damned ball go in the hole and walk away!

The reason we get caught in the trap of tolerations is that we never stop to question our situation and what can be done about it -- we just assume that this is the way things are and we have no choice. But I've got news for you. You can change absolutely anything about your life if you don't like it. This transition might not be pleasant (Growing pains are never easy), and you may have to go through a lot of difficulty to get to the other side. But it is SO worth it in the long run -- in the end, everyone in your life benefits when you are happier, more satisfied, and a hell of a lot more pleasant to be around.

Unfortunately, though, change is scary -- and most people just want to be comfortable (even if it means being not very happy most of the time). It's often easier to put up with a "known evil" it is than to break out and do something new and challenging to change your life for the better. You can spot "tolerators" from a mile away. They may be listless, angry, bitter, whiny, sick all the time, or seemingly rude and insensitive to others -- but it's just a manifestation of how unhappy they are with their own lives. Don't let their negativity hold you back -- take charge of your life and make it the existence you want it to be.

What are you tolerating in your life? For each annoyance, think about what you could do differently to make that frustration go away (or at least keep it from bothering you so badly). It could be as small a change as leaving the house 30 minutes earlier for work so you miss rush hour -- to moving across the country because you hate the weather where you live -- to selling everything you own and hitting the road in an Airstream (like we've done!) Just remember, you may not have control over the world around you, but you do have control over how you react to it. And you have control over the kinds of situations you allow yourself to be put in. You just have to figure out where your line is and start drawing it.

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