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A New View Of Happiness
When life throws us a curve ball how do we maintain happiness? Feeling happy when we've received bad news or experienced a tragedy doesn't fit. Happiness seems to disappear when bad things happen, but it actually goes "under the radar" for awhile until we reconnect with it. The Happiness Challenge is calling for us to throw out our old ideas about happiness. True happiness originates from a deeper intuitive place, a place where joy, wisdom, and optimism live. When we come from this perspective and "life happens", it shifts our whole experience of the unhappy event.
There's an area of my life that's in major chaos at the moment. It involves a large group of people that I have no control over, but I am caught up in the disruption and conflict. When things started to unravel my first instinct was to flee because it didn't feel safe anymore. However, after some contemplation I decided to change my perspective and make it a growth opportunity. I'm choosing to come from a place of curiosity and open-mindedness instead of judgment and frustration.
How we choose to look at something will ultimately be our experience of it. I can choose to see what's happening as horrible and hurtful or I can see it as a life lesson which will transform a system--probably for the better. That doesn't mean I don't have moments of anger and frustration. I do, but they don't last long because I actually want to be peaceful. I want to be happy.
When "life happens" and it tips the world upside down, change your perspective. I'm taking the Happiness Challenge right along with you and this is what I'm recommending:
***Acknowledge, express, and release your feelings. There are no negative emotions. All of our feelings are OK.
***Talk to someone you trust. Vent, but avoid gossip and judgment which is negative and harmful.
***Practice self-acceptance. Know that everything you're thinking, feeling, and doing is natural and can be changed if you choose!
***Focus on your strengths. Connect with the part of you that can "ride the waves".
***Get quiet and listen to your heart. It knows. You will receive the answers if you create a space to hear the wisdom.
***Practice forgiveness. Forgiveness comes from a place of self-love. We love ourselves enough not to hold on to the heaviness of resentment and choose to let it go.
***Stop trying to control the situation. It is when we surrender to what is that we gain our control. We can only change ourselves.
***Be open to receiving the good that may be hidden in the crisis.
***Remember what's important.
***Choose love not fear. Happiness is about loving and trusting.
Life will throw us plenty of curve balls. We can accept them as opportunities to understand ourselves and others more clearly or we can cut and run. When we stand in the unhappiness, accept it for what it is, and look it right in the eye, happiness will be looking right back at us.
posted on: 1/24/2008 12:00:00 PM by Maggie McCauley
category: The Mental Side
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Maggie McCauley, ACC, LICSW, The Effortless Organizing Coach, is the president of "A New View". She takes a holistic approach to organizing coaching her clients to create new habits that promote overall well-being, a sense of freedom and peace of mind.
My Favorite Books
- The Success Principles by Jack Canfield
- It's Hard To Make A Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys by Marilyn Paul
- Organize With Confidence by Elizabeth Hagen
- The Secret Of Letting Go by Guy Finley
- Life Is Short--Wear Your Party Pants by Loretta La Roche
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
- The Seven Whispers by Christina Baldwin
- Loving What Is by Byron Katie
- Making A Change For Good by Cheri Huber
- "Happiness Now!" by Robert Holden, PhD.