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Lightening The Load

Someone recently wrote to share how her husband and his siblings banded together to clean out her father-in-law's home, which she likened to an indoor junkyard. After they had filled the dumpster, her sister-in-law pointed at the contents and said to her father, "This is what you were loving while we were growing up. These were the children you were spending time with and we grew up with them and hated them and were JEALOUS of them."

He never knew they felt this way. And he certainly wouldn't have chosen to lighten his load this way. Yet it's sometimes a hard fact that the treasures and stuff we accumulate during our lifetime have a profound IMPACT on our families, on ourselves and on our ability to have a prosperous life.

Luckily, there are a few simple steps you can take to free yourself from the clutter of the past and mend fences in your family. Start by asking yourself a few simple questions about the things you are hanging on to:
  • Why are you AFRAID to get rid of these things?
  • Are you hanging on to some stuff "just in case?"
  • What do they REPRESENT to you?
  • How have your treasures and stuff affected your family?
  • How LONG will you carry this stuff around with you?
  • Who said you have to hang on to these things?
Take action now to lighten your load before someone else decides to lighten it for you. Here are seven tips to get you started.

Invite your children and grandchildren over to come get the things that were theirs during their CHILDHOOD. Donate, auction off or simply throw away anything that's left. Brenda, a client in her sixties, was holding on to her daughter's childhood dolls, thinking she would one day want them. When Brenda asked, she discovered her daughter didn't want them after all. She was free to sell them, which brought her some extra income and freed up valuable space. 

Make a list of the treasures you're ready to part with now. Then write down the names of friends and family members who have admired these items. Write down or record a STORY for each item, then throw a dinner party for these friends and family members. Share the stories with them as you pass along the GIFTS. Or give them as holiday or birthday presents.

Tap into the flow of giving and receiving by passing along treasures you want people to inherit, so you can see the JOY in giving and in receiving while you're still around. Be sure to write down and relate a story about the item.

Weigh an item's cost to you in terms of STRESS and UPKEEP. If you have a number of valuables -- such as collectibles, antiques, linens or pictures -- the expense of insurance, the worry of possible theft and the time spent on cleaning can be overwhelming. One 77-year old woman, Mary, has so much Depression-era glass on display in her house it takes her three days a week to dust them all. What's your joy-to-stuff ratio on these items in your home? Passing along or selling these items now will cut down on your stress level and save you money on insurance premiums.

Avoid any fighting and bickering over who gets what items. Write a letter like the one Janet's mother-in-law wrote, that simply states: "I hope we raised you well enough not to argue over possessions. Your family and dedication are more IMPORTANT than things. So I'm sure you won't argue over who gets what." As you tell your tales, explain why you selected a certain person to receive a certain item. This will go a long way toward alleviating any ill feelings. Remind them that it's the memory that matters, not the item itself. Encourage anyone who isn't the keeper of the item -- but cherishes the item as well -- to get a copy of the story about the item. They can always read the story, and visit the item.

Eliminate items that truly don't have VALUE any more. How many button boxes or jars of nails do you really need? Most of what you're saving isn't probably usable anymore anyway. Partially opened tubes of caulk, cans of paint or stain, tape, old twine, old spools of thread and elastic all go bad over the years. Throw out anything that is cluttering up your home and drawing your attention away from your family.

Unburden yourself from things that are tying you to the PAST. Is your basement or attic still packed with things from yesteryear? One man's basement had a six-foot mirror that had been shipped over from Europe, and was still in its shipping crate - nearly fifty years later! Do you have a "shrine" to a late mate or beloved child? Keep one or two "memory items" and release the rest. Otherwise, you'll always be INDEBTED to the past instead of free to face the future.

Above all else, don't make excuses, don't assess BLAME and don't POSTPONE the need to lighten your load. Too many seniors today are faced with a limited income and worries about how they will make ends meet. Your clutter is acting as a stopper to your prosperity. You can generate much needed income and free up space for even more money to come to you simply by releasing some of your treasures. You'll spend less time cleaning and dusting, and have more free time to do all the things you want to do.

Travel, take up a new hobby, volunteer, play with your grandchildren, create a playroom for yourself or your grandchildren. After all, what do you want to be REMEMBERED for -- your possessions or your joy for life?


Janet L. Hall, FSII, is the The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard -- and her books, taped seminars, and other products are all available directly through Visit her website at or contact her at .

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