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     Can't You See I'm Working?

Telecommuting or a home business may seem like the ANSWER to your prayers. You want to have more time with your family and greater flexibility, so you take the leap, install a second phone line, and set up a computer in the dining room. But the first thing you may discover is that working from home includes many unexpected DISTRACTIONS. Children, your spouse, neighbors, and the family dog come and go. They make loud noises, ask for your help, or interrupt to ask a “quick question,” always just long enough to break your concentration.

Your family and friends don't seem to understand that you're WORKING. They ask you to run errands, expect you to handle chores, and want to chat on the phone. When you see the pile of laundry or stack of dishes sitting there waiting, you may be tempted to take time out from work to clean up a bit. You’d like to keep your house livable and be AVAILABLE to the people you care about, but it's just too much for one person to manage. When can you get any work done?

The way out of this dilemma is to set clear BOUNDARIES on your space, time, and responsibilities. If your office has a door, try having "open-door" time and "closed-door" time. When your door is open, the kids can come say hello, ask questions, or tell you about their day. When the door is closed, it means "Do Not Disturb." If your office doesn't have a door, you NEED one! Try to find another place in your home where you can create some private space for at least part of the day.

A good way to explain this to children is to tell them you need some PRIVATE time, not just that you are busy. Setting regular working hours will help you manage your time better as well as give some GUIDELINES to your family. Build your hours around the family activities that are important to you. If your kids get home at 2:00, for example, set up your work day from 8:30 to 2:00 and 4:00 to 6:00.

Your schedule can CHANGE each week to allow for your family's activities, when necessary. Choose how many work hours per week makes sense for you, design a schedule, and post it on your office door. Highlight the OPEN times, and let everyone know that's when you are available to them.

If your family expects you to run errands and handle chores during your work day, it may be time to hold a family MEETING. Explain to your family members that it may look like you are playing on the computer or chatting on the phone, but this is your job, and it contributes to the family's income. Let them know that you are unavailable for chores or errands until after work hours -- evenings and weekends -- the same as if you worked OUT of the home.

Start by listing all the jobs that need to be done for the household, and who does them now. Instead of assigning chores, try asking each family member to VOLUNTEER for something. If there are lots of tasks left over, be sure to ask if they really need to be done, or done as often. (Dusting, for example, may need to go by the wayside.) If you are doing chores during time you could be making money, consider HIRING someone else to clean your house, service the car, or drive the kids to after-school activities.

You may find that friends and neighbors have a hard time understanding your work schedule, as well. They may think that since you are HOME during the day, you are available to chat, have lunch, go shopping, stop in for coffee, etc. The more respectful ones will call you first, giving you the chance to tell them you are working and explain your situation. But some will just drop in, interrupting your day. If you answer the door, be polite but FIRM and let them know you have to get back to work. Or leave a note on the door explaining your work hours, don't answer the knock, and plan to talk to them later in the day.

When one of your boundaries gets TESTED, learn to hold the line. If you give in even once, don't expect the boundary to hold up. Try making the closed door, posted schedule, or job roster the bad guy instead of yourself.

Instead of, "I'm too busy to talk right now -- you'll have to wait," say, "The door is closed now, would you please come back when it's open?" When friends phone during work time, ask them to call back after hours. And when someone doesn't do one of their chores, don't do it for them. Serving a meal on dirty dishes may seem extreme, but it will get the MESSAGE across.


CJ Hayden began life as a professional coach ten years ago. After years of delivering her marketing program to local audiences, she franchised her ideas and took them to a national marketplace. The success of her "brand extension" strategy even helped her land a book deal to publish "Get Clients Now! A 28-Day Marketing Program for Professionals and Consultants".

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